Day 3 of the Purpose Drive Life asks "What drives your life?" It gave the 5 major examples of what drives people lives. Guilt, Resentment/Anger, Fear, Materialism and Approval.
I have lived my life through Fear and Approval.
The fear of the unknown, the fear of change and the fear of failure.
I have also lived my life wanting others approval. I have done what's expected of me so that I would never disappoint anyone. I am an appeaser, which is not good because a lot of times I am angry as I am doing whatever is asked or expected of me. My Mom always told me "if you can't do it with a happy heart don't do it at all." Guess what? I didn't take her advice very often!
I am not complaining about my life at all. But I don't take chances, I don't take risks because I am afraid! I am trying to change my outlook on life, I am trying to take more chances and I am trying to say no if I really am not happy about doing something.
What drives your life? How have you been living?
Ooo---good question. Definitely seeking approval!!!! Thanks for the visit today, hon. :)
ReplyDeleteI think this is a great question. I know that I am a fear/guilt kind of girl...
ReplyDeleteI would have to say guilt, but I don't believe it's had a negative impact on my life - it's just pushed me to do dutiful obligations I should already be doing :)
ReplyDeleteApproval and guilt- two sides of the same coin. My husband doesn't need approval (or not much anyway) and having to validate me all the time drives him crazy.
ReplyDeleteGuilt. My Mom wields that weapon well- probably because she's ruled by it too. Interesting. I've heard good things about "A Purpose Driven Life". Thanks for giving me a little insight.
I guess if God wanted us to be perfect and know everything there is to know, He would have made us that way. Maybe he wanted us to learn some things the hard way!
ReplyDeleteWow...this really hit home with me. It was like I was reading my own words. I am constantly getting ran over and taken advantage of because I can't tell people no (and they know that I can't.) I have the same fears. Its a daily struggle what God and I are working on. Bless you, Kenzi! I'm really enjoying reading about your journey with this book!
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